You lose your patience too quickly or too frequently
You overreact to things that shouldn't bother you
You feel stressed even when there’s nothing stressful happening
You're exhausted by the afternoon
You have too much on your plate but still have to handle it all
You're worried your behaviour is affecting your kids but can't seem to change it
You're not alone...
I thought I was going to smash it as a parent.
After all, I’d worked with thousands of children over 20 years, and was pretty awesome at it.
But when my son was just four, I found myself yelling at him over little things all the time.
I couldn't seem to stop myself from overreacting.
He started shying away and stopped wanting to play with me.
My partner said she was going to leave me unless it changed.
I knew I had to do something and apologising just wasn't enough.
I’d spent years on personal development; I'd read the parenting books, taken the courses.
Nothing worked and l was failing as a dad.
I knew that I could be better and recognised that if patience lived anywhere, it lived in the brain.
So I tried using special brain-training exercises that I'd learned to help with my chronic pain.
And something miraculous happened.
In just a few weeks, I stopped overreacting and getting annoyed at my son and was able to reconnect with him.
I didn’t have to bite my tongue; I didn’t have to stop myself from yelling.
Things that were bothering me just stopped bothering me.
I found myself being more calm and relaxed without hardly having to do anything.
He started wanting me to play with him again and my girlfriend stopped being worried about our relationship!
And I wondered, would this work for others too?
So I turned what I'd learned into a step-by-step system and started to test it with other parents.
All they needed to do were three simple things:
1. Understand how their brain works
2. Use the system to discover what was really stressing their brain
3. Practise the right exercises for their brain
And when they did them, they were life-changing!